Kuch Khatti… Kuch Meethi…

Doston!

Pehchana hume? Hum wahin hain jo aapke samne pehli baar aaye the leke, Kuch Khatti Kuch Meethi!
Maafi chahenge hum aapse, kyunki bhot din baad mulakaat karne aaye hain. Par kya karte, vyast ho gaye the hum. Dil to baar baar keh raha tha ki aap logon se mile, par bas zindagi ki kuch uljhano ne hume bhi ghera hua tha. Aaj bhi hum kuch aisa hi leke aaye hain, jo shayad kisi ke dil ko achha lage ya kisi ke dil ko bura lage. Par isi ka to naam hai, Kuch Khatti Kuch Meethi!

Aaj ka topic hai, Feminism!

Han jante hain thoda difficult topic choose kia hai, par ye baat hum samajh nahi pate ki aakhir ye hai kya? Islie hume jis tarah se ye samajh aaya hai wo hum batate hain. I hope aapko humari samjhi hui baat samajh aaye.

Feminism! Feminism ko Google kare to meaning nikal kar aata hai, “the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.”

Matlab, sexes ki equality ke aadhar par, women rights ki vakalat karna.

Iske baare me janne se pehle hume kuch aisi terms bhi jaan leni chahiye jo is topic se relate karti hain.

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Female Chauvinist: a female who patronizes, disparages, or otherwise denigrates males in the belief that they are inferior to females and thus deserving of less than equal treatment or benefit.
Matlab, ek female jo males par daya kare, unki burayi kare, unhe neecha dikhaye, ye belief ke sath ki wo females se inferior hain aur wo females se less deserving hain.
Female Chauvinist ke female ko male se exchange kar de to wo ban jata hai, Male Chauvinist. Par Google ji kya kehte hain ye bhi dekh le.

Male Chauvinist: Male prejudice against women, the belief that men are superior in terms of ability, intelligence, etc.
Means, Male ego ya ghamand against women, ye belief ki men superior hain ability, intelligence aur baki chizon me.

Waise ye topic hai bhot dangerous, males ke lie kuch bolo to females ko bura lagta hai, aur females ke lie kuch bolo to males ko bura lagta hai. Lekin hume to kuch aur hi lagta hai. Par humare manne na manne se kya hota hai, hum to bas ek writer hain aur apni soch aap tak phocha rahe hain, baki acha lagna ya acha na lagna wo aapke hath me hai.

Hume to lagta hai ki galati hum dono ki hi hai, males aur females dono ki. Pehle aadmi ne aurat ko itna dabaya, itna sataya ki ab wo rebel karne lagi hain. Aur jab log rebel karne lagte hain to kabhi kabhi ye sochna bhul jate hain ki kya sahi hai aur kya galat hai. Wo bas rebel karna chahte hain. Unhe pasand aane lagta hai, dusron ki baat ko na manana, na samajhna. Lekin isme galati males ki hi hai, khud ko upar rakh kar females ko nicha dikhana jaise unka shaunk tha, aur ye aaj bhi hai kuch males ke andar. Par education aur development ke sath females itni powerful aur sashakt ho gayi hain ki ab wo in sab chizon se lad sakti hain.

Humare hisab se feminism hai, females ki azadi, unki equality, to choose, whatever they want to choose. Jaise males ko azadi hai, kahin bhi jane ki, kitni bhi der bahar rehne ki, apni life bina kisi darr ke khul ke jeene ki. Waise hi unhe bhi azadi honi chahiye. Par unhe gussa aata hai, jab males unhe is azadi se rokte hain. Aur aaega bhi kyun nahi, unse khulke rehne ki azadi chheen li jati hai.

Lekin har mard ya male, ye sab females par unka haq jatane ya unko baandh kar rakhne ke lie nahi karte hain. Han, jante hain ki mard aksar aurat ko baandh kar rakhna chahte hain, par har mard aisa nahi hota. Kuch log unhe khul kar jeene ke lie chhodna chahte hain, par hamare yahan ka mahaul, yahan ka environment unhe ye karne se rok deta hai. Kyunki aaj kal har dusre minute me nirbhaya jaise cases hote hain, aur unhe bhi darr rehta hai, ki kahin unki behen, wife, beti ya maa in sab chizon me na phas jaye. So, basically they are protective towards their loved ones.

Is par ek sawal uthta hai, ki kya unhe khud ghar par nahi baith jana chahiye? Males khud ghar par baithe aur females ko bahar nikalne de. Par kya sirf itna keh dene bhar se puri duniya ke males ye karne lag jaenge? Agar sirf kehne se cheeze sudhar jati to hamara Swachh Bharat Abhiyaan kabka safal ho chuka hota. Jo males ache hain aur sacche hain wo to apni behen, beti, maa, biwi ke lie ye kar bhi lenge. Lekin unka kya jo unse bilkul ulta sochte hain? Unka kya jo is taak me baithe rehte hain ki koi ladki unhe kisi sunsaan jagah par mile aur wo uska shikar kare? Kya wo ye sab karenge? Jawab hai… Nahi!

Han! Lekin fir se ye sawal uthata hai, ki kya ladkiyon ko kabhi unki wo azadi nahi mil paegi? Milegi, zarur milegi. Par shayad us hi pace, us hi gati se, jis pace, jis gati se hamara desh aage badhega. Usi pace se, jis pace se logon ki soch aage badhegi. Agar unhe lagta hai, ki tab tak wait karna mushkil hai, to hum unhe ye advice dena chahenge ki please, martial arts, karate, sab seekh dalo, aur muh tod dalo un logon ka jo aapki azadi ko rokne ki koshish karte hain. And trust me, jinhe sach me aapki khushi ki fikr hogi, wo is step me aapka sath zarur denge. Par please, kabhi ye mat sochiye ki har mard bura hota, kuch mardon ko aapki fikr bhi hoti hai jo na chahte hue bhi aapki azadi me rok laga deti hai.

Lagta hai hum ye baate karte karte jyada hi emotional ho gaye. Lekin ek chiz aur hai jo hum aapse kehna chahte hain. Jaise ki hum pehle bhi keh chuke hain ki feminism ka meaning hai to choose aur kuch ladkiyan ladkon se barabari ke karne me itni aage badh jati hain, ki unhe khud nahi pata ki wo sahi hain ya galat. Yeah! We can say, ki wo rebellious ho gayi hain, dusre words me inhe hum female chauvinist keh sakte hain. Par sirf ladkiyan hi aisi nahi hoti, kuch ladke bhi aise hote hain jo hamesha, males ko aur males me bhi khud ko sabse superior mante hain.

Pehle zamane me kuch log kehte the, “Sharam ladki ka gehna hota hai.” I will not say all this, because I also know, is type ki lines usi time me suit karti thi, this is twenty first century, so women can choose what they want to do. But they should choose wisely.

Hum yahan par ladkiyon ko judge nahi kar rahe, hum bas ek normal example dena chahte hain. I hope aap humari baat samajh paye.

Aaj kal ladkiyan ladkon se kadam se kadam milane ke lie, drink karti hai, smoke karti hain, drugs bhi leti hain, galiyan to normal baat hai. Par hume nahi pata ki unse ye kisne kaha hai that this is cool when boys do this. No! It’s wrong when a girl do this and it’s also wrong when a boy do this. And no this is not about samaj, society and sanskaar. It’s about you, it’s about your personality. It’s about choosing good over bad. Do you think these things are good for your health? Then why should you do this? I have some friends who are boys and who don’t drink, and even I don’t drink. No, I am not kidding. Yes, these guys exist, perhaps, only 10% left. But what happen to the 90% girls, who are going behind the wrong things, only to prove that they are also equal.

If you seriously want to prove yourself, if you seriously want to be equal, then don’t think much before making a right choice. But, yeah it should be a right choice. You want to be a Doctor and your parents wants you to be a housewife, go and tell them, choose your way, this will be the right choice, this will be your true feminism. Sirf itna hi nahi, agar aap ek house wife banna chahti hain and society pities on you, says, “Kitna padhi likhi beta, aur tumhe ab puri zindagi ghar ka kaam karna padega.” Tell on their face, “This is my decision, this is my choice. I got my education, because I wanted to be educated, not because I wanted to do a job.” Because, it should be your choice to sit on your home or to join a work.

I don’t know why people compare feminism with doing a job which a man can do. Women can do better things than men, to men se race lagane ke chakkar me, ya men se barabari pane ki lie kyun wahi sab karna jo ek aadmi kar raha hai. I am not saying that women should not work, they should work, but for their own happiness, not for any competition of equality with male society.

It’s not always about the race between male and female. It’s not always about showing that you are superior and other gender is inferior. It’s only about you, to choose what you really want. Wo fir chahe koi career option choose karna ho, ya ghar par reh kar ghar walon ke lie kaam karna, wo kisi se arrange marriage karna ho ya love marriage karna, wo apne pati ke hote hue bhi kisi ladke se dosti karna ho ya pati ko hi dost banana, wo decision shadi na karne ka ho ya divorce lene ka. But we should choose for our own happiness. Because the main goal of our life is happiness. And that’s the main point.

I hope meri baat shayad aapke dil tak phonchi ho.

So, this is your writer friend…

Signing off for today, will meet you soon with a new topic. Till then…

Stay blessed…
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